It just didn't seem right, Mr. Not So Perfect and Best Friend were out having fun and I was at home feeling sick. Maybe I needed to start dating. So after a whopping 2 days of mourning, I went online and started chatting with guys.
By the way there are two tag lines that will get guys chatting with you immediately. One is "just dumped by boy friend" and "not looking for hookups".
So I quickly started chatting with, let's call him "Nice Guy". We chatted for over an hour and set up a meeting the next evening at Starbucks.
We both arrived at 6. He definitely got points for punctionality. We started talking and he was cute, and very interesting. Then he started talking about his recent trip to Victoria. Mr. Not So Perfect and I stayed at the same hotel and we did just about the same things as Nice Guy.
It brought back memories and I started to tear up. I excused myself and ran and got the key to the bathroom. In the bathroom, I couldn't stop crying, and then I got sick and threw up - NICE. I cleaned up and returned the key, and walked out and went home. To my knowledge Nice Guy is still sitting there waiting for me to return.
I don't have his phone number or email, and I have not seen him online since. I was not ready to go out and start dating. Treating Nice Guy like this, just made me feel worse. Have you ever been mean to someone you dated?
I stayed home depressed for another week. Then I started venturing out again with friends or by myself. It's funny, places that you used to go with Mr. Not So Perfect or Best Friend used to be really friendly. Kind of like Cheers, Everybody Knows Your Name, and They're Always Glad You Came. Places where the cute boys would talk and flirt with you. But when you come in alone, it's like you have a bright pink L painted on your forehead. Nobody talks or even looks at you anymore.
What's with this Seattle attitude? Has anybody had experiences like this? If you are alone, you are a looser and nobody wants to talk to you. If you are with someone, then you seem worthy of conversation.
Let's stop this attitude now. Next time you are at a bar or restaurant and you see someone alone, walk over and say Hi. You don't have to give him a blow job. Just start a conversation. It is amazing how many interesting people are out there, just waiting to share their story. You will be richer for the experience.
Mr. Not So Perfect posted a comment on this blog that we all learn something from our relationships. I feel bad for Nice Guy, and I feel sorry for all those sitting alone somewhere just waiting for someone to come up and say "Hey, how's it going?" I've learned many things since the Breakup. I hope I am now a more patient person. And I hope I never treat anyone like I treated Nice Guy.
If anyone has heard this story from Nice Guy, please send me his email or phone, I need to apologize.
Send me your stories of when you weren't the best you could be. Next time I actually put an ad on Craigslist.
Until Next Time - Wise OUT
1 comment:
Please get over him. He may have been nice to you at one time but in the end he was not such a nice guy. Do not cry over someone who does not care about your feelings. I feel that your best friend and Mr. Not-so-perfect had a mutual interest before your breakup. I wish you could meet someone fun with your same interest and maybe they can shower you with gifts and drinks. There are some nice guys out here, I know because you're one of them. I'm glad you're meeting new people and not sitting home getting sick waiting for those two backstabbers to call!
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