Red Flags

A couple weeks ago I'm driving home in a blizzard. Yes it snows in Seattle in March! It's a Saturday night but I just want to get home safely. I get home and go online to answer some long neglicted emails. Suddenly I get a request to chat.

OK sure, why not? He says his name is Nicholas and asks if I want to meet him for a drink. Tonight? Yes.
Where did you want to meet? Renton! (insert about 1000 Renton jokes here).
Why Renton? I don't drive and that's where I live. (Redflag #1).
Are you looking for a hookup? NO, I'm looking for a LTR. (Redflag #2).

I have to be honest, if he would have send hookup, I might have driven to Renton. He had sent a picture, and he was cute.
Do you have a job? yes
Do you have a boyfriend? no

He pleads for me to drive to Renton to meet him. I tell him that if he's really looking for a relationship that we should start by chatting and talking on the phone and if we are still interested then we go out and see if there's any chemistry.
When can I call you? Oh let's say tomorrow afternoon. OK.
What's your number? so I give him my number (my first mistake).
Call me tomorrow after 1pm.

As soon as I entered my number my phone rings, Guess what? YES, it's Nicholas. (redflag #3).
I then tell him that he sounds really desperate, and ask if he just broke up with his boyfriend?Then he spills his guts. No, we broke up 6 months ago, but he has a restraining order against me. (redflag #4).
And I go to court next week, because he filed 3 complaints against me for violating the order. (redflag #5).
My public defender says I could get 3 years in jail! (redflag #6).
Why do you have a public defender? I have no job or money (redflag #7).
I thought you told me you had a job? I had one, but my boyfriend somehow arranged it for me to get fired. (redflag #8).
He again begs me to come to Renton. I tell him that I have to think about this and I will talk to him tomorrow.

Sunday about noon, I call him and it goes to voicemail. Why not sleep all day if you don't have to work? Anyway I leave a message that I've thought about this and he has a lot of stuff going on now, so get the court thing settled, get a job and get off drugs, then call me.
I just threw the drug thing in, because he was cute and weird and interested in me. You have to be on drugs if you are cute and interested in me!

The question to my bloggers "Are 8 red flags too many?" OK I know what you are all going to say, so let me ask this instead: "Why are guys like this attracted to me?" So if he calls me after the court appearance, what do you think I'm going to do? Stay tuned....

Until Next Time Wise OUT.