Life of Brian

His name was Brian. He was the roomate of my friend Fedra. She had rented out a room in her home to him. Brian had just moved to Seattle from Lewiston, Idaho. Immediately she was telling us how cute Brian was. He had told her that he was a real estate agent.

After about a month of living with Fedra, he told her that he was tired of hooking up with a different guy every night. He was ready to settle down with a nice guy. For some reason, Fedra thought of me.

She tried talking me into asking him out. I kept telling her no. For one thing he's new in town and he's selling real estate? That's like being an actor or an artist. Another thing, he's 25 years old! and he has an 8 year old son!! Also he's really hot and he hooks up every night! Yea I want a boy friend like that.

We had met a couple times when we had parties or when everyone hung out together as a group. He seemed nice and he was cute.

One Sunday afternoon we are all at Piecora's eating pizza, when Mark (another friend) blurts out, "So, Brian do you want to go out with Rick?"
"Sure, that would be fun."
"Um, oh, well" I'm trying to sound intelligent, "How about tomorrow night we can go see the new movie Wall-E".
"OK, but how about tonight, do you want to go dancing with me at the Cuff?"
This was a total unexpected response. So I say, "Sure, why not? Let's go".

So we head on over to the Cuff. I pay the cover charges and buy us a couple drinks. We hit the dance floor. We dance for a while, then he pulls me off into a corner where we start making out and groping. We go back dancing then head back to the corner. Back and forth. All of a sudden I really like this guy.

After a couple hours of this, he tells me he's hungry and asks if I'll buy him dinner. If I remembered right we had just eaten pizza a few hours ago, but sure we can get something to eat.
We go on Broadway to Jai Thai. He eats like he hasn't seen food in days. I pay the bill and we walk hand in hand back to the Cuff. At the Cuff we resume our not so unpleasant routine of dancing and making out.

I looked at my watch and I see it's 12:30, and it's a school night! I have to leave,
"Would you like to come up to my place and spend the night?" I ask.
No, I think I'll just hang around here until it closes at 1, but you go ahead you have to get up early. So we kiss goodnight and I head home.

The next day I discover that as soon as I left he picked up TWO guys and took them back to his place. When I asked him why he didn't just come home with me, he answered that "he didn't like me like that". He just liked my money! He obviously has not seen my truck or my bank book. I told him that that was an awful thing to say. He said, "Well at least I'm honest, unlike all your other friends." That hurt even more. It had me questioning my relationships with my friends. Was I being used? Certainly not for money, but maybe something else? I was really confused.

Needless to say, I cancelled the movie. I found out that that night he told Fedra that he couldn't afford the next months rent. He had no job and no money. It seems his mom had paid a couple months rent for him. So Fedra kicked him out and he moved back to his mom and his son in Idaho.

At first I was upset that he didn't come home with me. Now I feel very lucky that he didn't. I know me, (a flaw that I am working on), if he would have come home with me that night, I would probably be writing Fedra a check for his rent. Of course it would have had to be a post-dated check. OR worse yet, he would now be living at my place!

I had very little invested in Brian but it's amazing how fast I can be swept into these bizarre situations. Like I said, I am working on it. I signed up for a 3 day course in October that will hopefully help me with a few of my character flaws. I'm still working on the doubts I have about my friends.

Until Next Time - Wise OUT