Is 20 minutes too late to wait for a date to show up? I'm just asking because it's 6:20pm. I'm sitting at Piecora's waiting for 'G' my 6:00 date. We met a couple weeks ago at Madison Pub. We played pool and had a great time. I liked him and I guess he like me too, because he asked if we could go out on a "real" date sometime. After pool we exchanged phone numbers and he left.
Later that night he called me and told me he was serious about going out and asked what I was doing the next night. I invited him to go bowling. The problem was that it was our 1st date and bowling was going to be with my entire family. That's a lot of pressure to put on someone. He said he was cool with that and we could go as friends.
The next morning he called me and told me he couldn't make it as he was called into work. I totally understood and told him we could make it another day.
When? he asked.
What about Sunday afternoon. We could go bowling at the Garage.
He said that was fine. The agreement was that I would find out the hours and call him Sunday with the details.
On Sunday I got the info and tried to call him. His phone immediately went to voice mail the lady says "the mailbox is full". I couldn't even leave a message. I tried calling all day, evening and the next day. Nothing.
Finally on Tuesday he called me from a pay phone (I didn't even know they still existed) and told me that he hadn't paid his cell bill and he couldn't call out. I told him I couldn't leave a message either. He was sorry and asked if we could try again.
We agree to meet at Piecora's for a slice of pizza then walk over to the Garage and bowl. We were to meet at 6. It is now 6:30.
If this was the first guy that stood me up, it wouldn't be so bad BUT...
In November I went to the dating site on Craig's List and found an interesting ad. I answered the ad and within a couple hours I got a response. We found that we had a lot in common. I sent him a picture of me and he still seemed interested. He said he didn't have any digital pictures of himself.
We agreed to meet at Pacific Place after work one night. That afternoon he called and told me that work was exhausting and asked if we could reschedule. Of course this was no problem. He asked what I was doing on Saturday. I told him I was going to Madison Pub to watch the Apple Cup. For those non-football types this was the annual game between the University of Washington and WSU. He told me he'd meet me there.
On Saturday I went to the Pub and I met my friend Josh and his boyfriend Christian. I told them I was meeting a blind date. Each new guy that walked in they would ask,
Is that him?
I don't know!
Bottom Line: He never showed up. No call or no text.
Days later he text me and told me he was tired on Saturday and didn't make it out. But work was going to ease up next week so we should try next week. We then set up another date for downtown after work.
Date night afternoon he texts me and tells me work was rough. I text him back asking
Does that mean we are cancelling?
He texts back
Not sure will let u know l8tr
(is l8tr that much of a shortcut from later?)
He never replied back nor showed up. I never got an explanation or an apology.
So here I sit at Piecora's drinking my Elysian Immortal IPA. - yes they have Elysian on tap!
Now I'm wondering is an hour too long to wait?
Until next time - Wise OUT
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5 comments:
I don't think an hour is too long to wait, as long as you're able to drink while waiting!
Yes, it is too long to wait, especially if they don't contact you to inform you of their tardiness.
-Kathy
If a date puts you off once for a valid reason you give them a 2nd chance. But unless their mother died, another cancellation is a deal breaker. This is an omen of what's to come IF you ever get in a relationship with that person -- constant frustration and a feeling that you aren't being treated with respect. And arriving very late for a first date is like being late for a job interview....you just don't do it and expect to be hired. You deserve much more than that.
Come on, Rick - this guy can't pay his cell bill? You really want a relationship with someone like that? I think his being late is not the biggest problem you would have with this guy.
I have an iron-clad 15 minute rule. It works. If they are late, really have an interest, and find me gone, I always hear from them almost right away. Lets them know that I have better things to do with my time than hanging around waiting for them.
I have to parrot Betty on the "wasn't able to pay his phone bill" note and carry that on to "doesn't have a digital picture of himself"... Realy in 2010 you don't have a digital photo? If he was on a dating site he must have some computer exposure...
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