1. Hooking up - these are usually a one time just for sex relationship. (Can you call it a relationship if it only lasts a night?). Even though I know a few guys who have met via a hookup and then become boy friends, most of the time hookups are simply just sex. If I ever know the name of a hookup, I soon forget, or I write a blog about them.
2. Dating - Hopefully you remember the names of guys you are dating. So far I've been able to do that. Dating is very interesting - you are not exclusive but sometimes one of you assume that you will spend at least one of the weekend nights together. This is why it's hard to date more than one guy at a time. But it does seem perfectly acceptable to date more than one guy at a time. It depends on the couple to determine when you cross the line from dating to be being boy friends. One of my dates actually had a rule. You have a conversation after 3 months of dating. I'm not sure if you don't have a talk, if you simply wake up one day and you are boy friends? So far in my limited experiences, this is the most fun phase. Getting to go out with a cute boy or boys, and very little drama. We still tend to be on our best behavior.
3. Boy Friend - This phase usually begins with high hopes. Usually most boy friends are exclusive. You also assume that you will spend most weekends together. After dating you know enough of the baggage to either have accepted it or moved on. You still don't live together but you spend most nights together. Again personally I'm not sure how you exactly get to the point of moving from dating to boy friend. Also I'm not sure what the formality is of moving from boy friend to partner. Michael my ex, said we would have a talk after being together for a year about moving in together. Deep down I was always afraid of that discussion. Where does the relationship go after the talk and the answer is NO? You can't go back to dating? This usually is the end of the entire relationship. If the answer is No, boy friends usually go their own ways, either hating each other or becoming good friends. Michael and I never made it to the "moving in" conversation - we broke up a few months before the year. But I'm happy to say that we are good friends.
4. Partners - everyone says this is what they are looking for. Generally this means that you live together. Maybe you have registered as a domestic partner and/or have a committment ceremony. I know several couples in this category. For about half of them it means "opening up" the relationship. I don't know if I could handle that myself. But I'm certainly not going to judge them.
There are some people stuck in one phase and they have no desire to move on. They are perfect happy just hooking up. There are others that are serial daters, not wanting a boy friend. I'm still so new to everything I'm not sure what I want. Sitting here typing my blog, I really think that I would like at least a boy friend. I do know that I'm tired of hooking up.
No moral to the blog, just some observations. So what do you think? Did I miss something? Did I incorrectly describe these?
In the meantime there's one category that I didn't even describe.
Synergy Events presents - BACHELOR AUCTION09
No cover!
Wednesday, April 8
Doors open at 8 PM
Julia’s Restaurant
300 Broadway East
Seattle, WA
(206) 334-0513
Join our host, performer Mark “Mom” Finley, at Julia’s Restaurant as we raisefunds to benefit Lifelong AIDS Alliance.
Kick off your night when doors open at 8 PM with our welcome mixer featuring specialty cocktails and hors d'oeuvres. Mix and mingle while celebrated guest DJ Kyler from C89..5 FM spins your favorite tracks.
We’re auctioning off 10 of Seattle’s hottest bachelors combined with complimentary date packages from your favorite local haunts. Take in the show and bid as our bachelors take the stage and give us their best. Underwear provided by Red Drawers. (HOT)
Enjoy our intermission show with a surprise performance by Julia’s own Sean Paul and premium door prizes from our supporting sponsors.
For every $25 in food or beverage purchased, receive a complimentary ticket to Julia’s Le Faux female impersonation show!
Visit the Red Drawers underwear sales display with their best selling inventory available. 10% of sales at the benefit will be donated to Lifelong!
General donation suggested at door. All proceeds go to Lifelong AIDS Alliance.. Event 21+
Come join the party and enjoy the show to support Lifelong!
For questions or to volunteer at the benefit, please contact Synergy Events at gqjustin@yahoo.com .
Not sure where in my phases does "buy a boy" fit in. But come on out and have fun.
Until Next Time - Wise OUT
